done during Saibaba pooja at my house. Shirdi Saibaba
and Lord Dattatreya blessings with beautiful Lemon lamps
Aum Ganeshaya Namaha
Saibaba Will bring Peace in your
life : When ever you visit this site open our Saibaba Photography
and do a prayer looking at Saibabas eyes and Padhuka . Click here on
eyes and padhuka . It opens in a seperate window..Once you finish
reading below article do a simple prayer looking at Saibabas
eyes. Surely Saibaba will bring peace in you.
Please visit MarriagePooja.com
if you are looking for blessings for peaceful married life. This
website focuses on relationship issues to help sai devotees divert
their mind to Sainath.
Shirdi Sai Baba inspired me to create a Indian Matrimonial and
wedding planning site - Its not a professional matrimonial service
but I wish to spread good spiritual messages for Good Married life
and couples to live in Harmony - Please have a look at below effort
from StarSai Holy Network.
Matrimony - Light Lamps for Peaceful Married life
Write to venkat : First go through this website,
see if it helps you in some way to feel the saibaba in you . May
be you must try to forget the past and devote your time more in
sai devotion.After you read few articles If you have something to
share mail me but dont worry if i dint reply. I write to saibaba
devotees when i have time. All mails are kept confidential. You
can email me to firstname.lastname@example.org
Om Ganeshaya Namah - At times we have to
learn the art of loving Saibaba and Saibaba alone.
Shirdi saibaba blessings
for peace and harmoney in your family and all relationships you
Welcome to Shirdi Saibaba's Dwarakamai
of Humanity - www.starsai.com was launched to help people realize
that Gods blessing will reach them easily if they learn the art
of "Giving" and helping others. After almost 3 years am
am creating a Simple website starsai.net ( 2007 ) to help Saibaba
devotees suffering in relationship issues understand that their
devotion on saibaba alone is true and divert themselves to show
love on saibaba by doing saibaba pooja , offering flowers and lighting
lamps. I also request them to do Shradha
Saburi Pooja found in starsai.com.
Over the years the mails i used to receive expressing pains faced
by few indian women living abroad and in india made me realize that
many of us keep sai as our Guru and seek his guidance in relationship
issues .My own experience with sai in relationship issues , helped
to understand how sai works on our life in these aspects.
The goal of starsai.net is to help shirdi saibaba devotees to totally
surrender to sais path with firm faith and Love him no matter what
he gives or takes from our life.
Click here to learn
more about starsai.net and why the caption is "Do
we really love sai "
Blessings of shirdi saibaba for your love &
married life :
If you dont like talking facts about love , relationships and how
sai works on our life in these aspects avoid reading this article.
I meditated imagining shirdi sai as "Ram" and recited
Hanuman Mantra for few minutes looking at a lamp and started to
write this. The intention to write this article is because of the
experiences i had, being a servant of sai for few years .
If you are a person who has suffered a lot in relationships issues
when you are young, before or after marriage,read this and if you
find any mistakes please forgive me. Starsai is all about trying
to help every kind of sai devotees in pain and as far as i know
, many youngsters keep sai as their Guru and guide to help them
find their love, help them keep their love , get married - After
marriage if any problem araises in family amoung parents, inlaws
or problems in career leading to problem in love life. I have seen,
heared and personally helped quite a few girls and women whom i
consider as people sai showed me to help them as much as i can.
I myself did mistakes and would have hurted any girl.
Some saibaba devotees write to me about the problems they face
.I feel happy some of them are able to come out of their past memories
and go for marriage with better person. Some sai children are stubborn
and keep worrying. Trust me,offer all your relationships in the
holy feets of saibaba and be calm. Saibaba will accept your devotion
but dont ask for what you think is going to make your life happy.
May be saibaba has a better life for you. So make use of this precious
time in showing devotion to saibaba.
This website is to help thousands of sai devotees to increase their
shardha and saburi when they come to Saibaba seeking blessings in
love , marriage and other family issues.
Dedicated to innocent, good hearted shirdi saibaba
For years, i had myself faced lots of pains in relationships and
everytime i get little hints from baba, dreams , visions etc , i
take it as assurance given by sai himself and lead a strange life
which no one would ever understand. Mean while, i also had come
across few good girls who had shared their relationship problems
especially their love life and family problems after marriage with
me.Most of them are very sincere sai devotee, good hearted with
good habits and have good family values.
In 2005, when i used to listen all about their life and guide them
spiritually by asking them to light lamps, give food and clothes
to poor, do little good things that might possibly wash away their
bad karma.I always had the intention to support people who are seperated
from their soul mate. When thinks dint worked out they get upset
with baba and also me because am the poor fellow whom sai has appointed
to repeat the golden words "Dont worry, sai will help you soon".
Later as experience grows, i started to learn how actually baba
works in his true devotees life and sometimes how he recues us from
worst that was to happen. This article is an inspiration from my
sweet Guru shirdi saibaba. His leelas cant be explained in words
because am neither good in writing nor do i have concentration like
Hamadpant. I am ordinary fellow and baba has helped me learn his
ways by letting me face my bad karma but still sai was constantly
protecting me.This message is just one percent of what this ordinary
servant of sai could convernt into words , the leelas of sai which
could only be understood if you totally surrender to him with body
, mind and speech.
Its not easy to be a saint and not at all to be a saint like shirdi
saibaba. He has devotees with various problems in life , who depend
on him so innocently and some girls who are deeply involved in sais
ways will consider little hints he gives as positive or negative
signs to take a decision in their life.
For any women, deciding her life partner is the most crucial one.
After a point of time, when a problem happens in relationship ,
the first emotion that grows in them is anger on our sai...Many
write me , its sai who gave me this life and united me with this
guy but why did it breakup and why gradually am pushed to such a
state because of situation.
For few good girls and guys who choose their soul
mate keeping shirdi saibaba as their guru and guide :
This article is dedicated to few devotees of shirdi saibaba who
pray him with tears , get angry with him and feel depressed due
to problems in their relationships. I became a feminist from 2002
after reading the book "Do they hear you when you cry "
written by Fouzia .Its a real life story of a Nigerian girl who
escapes her country fearing for FGM and lands up in America asking
for asylum. The story is about how she suffered in the American
jail and few good souls who are founding members of equalitynow.org
saved her and gave her a new life.Please read this book. You will
know how to value a women in your life. Its sensitive , touching
and "gorgeous" if i can use that word.
So this article is also dedicated to girls / women who pray sai
innocently when they are in love or when they marry thinking that
they did got positive hints from sai and finally get into problems
. Trust me, if i write the real life stories of few indian women
who are suffering, it will bring tears to your eyes. Please dont
see this article as something that deviates from spirituality. The
most common habit in india is hiding things in the name of decency
which must be clearly discussed and understood.
The need to relate shirdi saibaba with your love
life and married life :
Every time someone says that they are looking for guy for their
daughter, i pray whole heartedly because studies, career and other
things in life can be rewound but if relationships goes wrong, then
it creates a wound in our heart. I have asked hundreds of girls
i met in saibaba mandhir at my place and various places to light
lamps. Though it will benefit them in their studies and career my
deep belief that lighting lamps with devotion will help sai bless
them with a kind hearted guy makes me spread a word about lighting
lamps to everyone.
In the recent days due to experience , by observing how the girl
prays, am able to guess if she has a problem in relationships, -
by giving commitments, life style, unable to satisfy expectations
of person involved, financial and career crises which inturn effecting
relationship, getting attracted to some other person which leads
to dillema, cheating and what not. sometimes even guys have such
pains but its women who are not able to come out of it and surrender
to sai only after they already get into worst pains.
Dont blame sai after doing things to satisfy your
own needs and desires :
In the fast changing mordern world , our girls who likes to have
fun, talk on phone ,communicate on net, feel confident with strangers,
Trust friends totally, go out with friends, Have food and everything
else which is not good for health , fall in love, and every time
they go to saibaba temple and ask for a hint if the guy involved
is good, am sure they will get positive hints . ( Guys freakout
too but this article is especially to help girls "think"
properly and ask for shirdi sais help before they involve in any
relationship or take a important decision.)
Gradually when problems happens they blame it on sai...they say
.."Baba its you who gave him to me and why are you making me suffer
now." I have been helping few of my sai friends and this article
is not for those orthodox devotees who think world is as it were
in 18th century and they never like to relate shirdi sai with a
womens love and married life.
well, why do we all go to temple . Its just for our own selfish
reason , to study well,to get job, to make money, get the right
husband or wife,have children, for health and every thing else....so
religion itself gains importance because of our desires
and the most common desire being the "love life"
, i know almost every single true sai devotee ask him to guide them
in their love and married life .Atleast when they are happy, they
feel its sai who gave them that life but this article is not for
those enjoying "happy times" and not at all for those
who never get into such problems. Lord Hanuman bless those of you
who simply stay away from the wordly relationship affairs and escape
the chase of "Maya" . I am only concerned about few good
hearted souls who suffer worst pains due to relationship problem.
Why shirdi sai gives positive hints when you began
the relationship :
Its habit of few highly devoted shirdi saibaba followers to ask
him for hints like using "answer book", writing chit,
few good incidents, getting a photo, happening of good event, little
things like flowers falling down from statue etc when they pray
sai . Mostly , in relationships baba seems to give positive hints
confirming that the guy involved is good , is chosen by sai for
you and he will keep you happily and marry you. I write this after
hearing and helping atleast 10 to 20 girls in their love life. Every
one used to say the same thing to me .
"Baba only gave that guy to me , then why did he leave me
and why baba cant help when am suffering like this ? "
I used to convince them but it will only remain odd conversation
on phone with very good hearted innocent sai friends. Will i be
able to get back their lost love and if someone reading this asks
me if its really such a pain. Let me tell you one thing. The pain
that comes in a heart that is experiencing problem because of the
person they love, seperation, betrayal etc is one of the worst pain
of all. Trust me , its unbearable. I have gone through it and had
helped few good sai friends to get healed.
People suffer in relationships at
heart, the way disease like cancer can bring pain to body.
Girls even get so depressed that they try to commit .................
but they wont have guts or bravery to do it and few have done it
too. I have run to help few girls who are in pain and i also know
guys who cry sitting alone in room thinking about the girl they
love. Am not an exception. He he he .... Well, as they say experience
counts when you serve a saint and may be sai gave me desires, he
dint fulfill my desires and made me sit like this writing to you
because thats what sai wants from me - To help and guide other young
hearts to have more patience, be careful , be more faithful to sai
and go in his path even when things doesnt seem to work out.
The philosophy of "Pay Back your past lifes
bad karma" :
Ok let me explain it clearly now. Is it sais intention to first
give you positive signs and let you suffer when the relationship
turns from sweet to bitter. Why did sai seem to support your relationships
when it all started .The reason is simple.
Baba has said this " Unless
there is some relationship or connection, nobody goes anywhere.
If any men or creatures come to you, do not discourteously drive
them away, but receive them well and treat them with due respect.
who are these people whom you get attracted to , fall in love and
suffer ? Do you think others doesn't deserve your attention. Why
is it that am in love with a purticular girl and that purticular
girl is in love with some other guy. .Why sai first makes you meet
a man , fall in love with him, marry him and atlast your life gets
worse and you are forced to divorce him. The reason is simple.
we are born to "Pay back" what we got in our previous
birth. May be i would have cheated the same girl in my previous
births life and thats why am suffering now.
Sometimes the Girl innocently marries someone , has a child but
later she realizes the guy is actually phycho and he torches her
everyday . Finally she has to divorce him. Now why din't baba protected
her before hand is the question that araises. The reason is she
would have done harm to someone in her previous birth and now its
her duty to "Pay back". I mean shes suffering , accepting
punishment for the sins thats done by her atma in some birth she
took. Though shes not responsible for that , its her karma to go
through it. Now baba would have helped her before hand but that
needs total surrender to sai.
Thats why i ask every girl i meet to light lamps....when you regularly
light lamps with pure love on God, it will help you atleast get
a very small hint if the decision you take is right or not. Lighting
lamps is just one aspect but total devotion to sai means giving
up your desires, keeping away your passion and humbly requesting
sai for guidance which would have saved the girl from such
a worse situation in life.
why did sai let you go through all these stages
of love :
2.Talking and understanding,few incidents
3.Proposing,Loving, spending time togather, roaming, the most common
activity of talking in phone
4.Getting married . some do it with ashirwad of parents and some
opposes parents and marry
5.Finally in few months or years the relationship turns bitter and
ends in seperation or divorce.
Remember you would have been a shirdi sai devotee in all these
stages or some learn about sai because of the girl or guy involved....
Most of the time, i only see girls who say , sai gave them positive
hints that the guy who has proposed them or whom they like is good
and that he will bless them with good married life but after few
weeks or months everything changes and they face the worst possible
I myself have faced worst pains for years and very few of my close
shirdi sai friends knows why i am like this and what made me conclude
that only baba must chosen the girl of my life . I myself have suffered
a lot because sometimes if i like a girl , i will pray baba and
when baba comes in dream and says something i believe it whole heatedly.
I am too soft and sensitive for deciding things on my own but sai
has helped me especially from march 2007 through dreams .I never
ever had got help from sai to this extent. One of the reason i am
writing this article now is because from may to june 2007 , i had
cried every single day hugging baba photo. Then i gradually understood
i am supposed to be calm and somehow diverted my mind .
Even now am not able to understand why the hell i am moulded by
sai like this. Why am i innocently asking baba to give me hints,
come in dream and help me and if he does, am wondering why what
he says in dream is in contradictory to reality. One think i know
baba loves about me is that if he says something i will follow it
untill i die. I will behave in real life the way he guides me in
words, vision and dream. But the world is not as good as sai thinks
....Reality hurts me to the core.
Since i consider every single word , vision and dream of sai as
babas promise and assurance, it had lead me to worst possible pains
and in the end i had offered my hairs in temple to Lord Murugan
feeling why the hell baba said something , i acted only as per sais
assurance but i am treated like a fool and am only sitting and crying
hugging baba photo.
When i think hardly , i understood the basic fact that i would
have done a bad thing to the girl involved in my previous birth
...may be thats why am unnecessarily getting attracted to her and
suffering myself and also disturb the girl.
It could be the same in your life too. Please dont think baba
dint helped you. Baba and all pure saints act as
per dharma and they have to let you go throw your "Pay back"
phase in life only after which you will get wisdom and with wisdom
comes the gift of sai. They will help you
for sure but if your karma is so bad then it wont let you take a
devotional path that easily. Thats why baba says " surrender
all your senses and just say my name sai sai sai and i shall take
you over the seven seas" ....what does sai mean by this
seven seas...Its the pains and suffering you are facing now. Had
you and i remembered sai , sai and sai alone with out giving space
to our sensory needs then surely baba would have got a chance to
So far so good. Ok leave the past. Atleast now we are in sais fold
and lets be totally devoted to him, read sai satcharita regularly,
light candles or lamps ,offer garland to sai, humbly prostrate before
him , ask him to forgive us for our past mistakes and guide us,
show us a light from this very minute.
I pray my sweet shirdi saibaba to bless each and every one of you
who reads this article with a good positive change in your life
if you have totally surrendered to shirdi sais feet.
Now lets analyse where problems starts in love
Some times it starts in meeting itself.....sometimes its in understanding
stage and mostly the problems starts after proposal ,after understanding
the 2 are in love. Thats when few incidents might have happened,
family situation comes across, because of Maya and bad habits some
diviate from true love and go to another person,some listen to their
parents and leave the girl ( this is worst of all sins ) , some
think its better to live freely to retain their license of chosing
a better person, some doesnt like the person involved after they
proposed, so they try to split .Thus various problems happens in
I get mails from my sai friends and i guide them someway. But
am ordinary person. I can't do miracles. I can only remain as a
good sai friend or brother for you and analyse your problem and
say something to my knowledge and understanding of sai but sai alone
knows if what i say is right or wrong.
Value the men and women in your life :
I also get mails from few very matured sai friends in their late
30s and early 40s when they already have kids. They say how cruely
their husband left them, asking for divorce as he is attracted to
some other women. These sai friends are really hardworking, they
go for work, take care of their children and also spend their time
showing devotion to sai.
See how cruel the world is. People are ready to throw away affectionate
wife and children as they are blindlyy going behind new life because
of lust , money and what not. I cant say few real life stories here
as i keep all my sai friends conversation with me very personally
but i want to help atleast 5 % of sai devotees who after reading
this message will understand its
a gift of gods blessings to get a good hearted wife , good hearted
husband and nice peaceful family. Please do not throw away
the life saibaba gave you. Its only one life we live here and we
are going to pay back for every bad deed we did either in this or
When i listen to stories like this, wont i feel, i must do the
little i can to create awareness to shirdi saibaba devotees to "Value"
a women , "Value" their children and be contented with
whom sai blessed you with. Do not hurt any one. Thats why i write
this article. How can i make a change in innocent sai devotees who
after everything is over ask me if anything can be done. No matter
at which stange someone writes to me my only reply will be "Light
lamps regularly", completely surrender to sai, dont stick to
your desires , try to divert your mind in good books and career
Finally , let me confirm one thing i learnt about sais ways .You
like to hear this or not....sai wont do much when you are supposed
to face few hardships, fall in trap, suffer the worst so as to "Pay
back" your past births bad karma.
Sai gave you positive hints in the starting stage of your relationships
because he knows you are supposed to go through the relationship,
suffer the worst and the best part about being completely devoted
to sai no matter what sai does is that, suddenly someday sai will
give you a incident, a vision or a dream and pull you out of pains......then
remains sais gift for you in the next few months. I know for some
people life cant be rewound but if you totally surrender to sais
feet and show your devotion whole heartedly sai is there to keep
you in his own lap as a child and bless you with a beautiful life
I know how it pains when you are in love :
The one who can serve shirdi saibaba is the one who suffered enough.Ofcourse
i suffered because of my desires and foolish, childish mistakes
i did but sai alone knows how much i had gone through for the past
9 years from 1999 , especially after 2004 when i faced lots of pains
due to few involved in my life. Many ask how i am not interested
in career and simply coming around dhuni and give photos and just
lead a life as i like .The reason is i am fed up with life and what
i had gone through made me feel blunt . I sometimes have unnecessary
desires even now .In any case i know the pains i had gone through
because of my own mistakes and the girls in my life. I had cried
for days togather, hugged saibaba photo and spoke to him, cried
to sai ,beat myself and even been named as phycho. For someone so
soft , sensitive , i dont know how even after all these experiences,
am still living with desires . Shouldn't i say " ok venkat,
its better we live remembering sai alone" ...No. am not able
to get to that point.
Since i know how much it pains at heart when a problem happens
in love or married life, i wanted to write this . Please forgive
me if i had done anything wrong.I just want to help few girls who
pray sai to take proper steps right from the moment they visited
starsai. Please be careful and dont hurt yourself for what is happening
in your life. I wont assure anything because am as ordinary as you
are but all i can assure is Shirdi
saibaba will bless you with a good beautiful peaceful married life
if you have patience and surrender to him completely.
Listen to mothers advice :
When you read this, am sure you will relate to how much you suffered
because of the person you trusted, loved or because of your own
little mistakes. Most youngsters even ignore their parents warning
.Parents are not always right but mostly baba uses mothers advice
to convery his message. So dont hurry to run in the cool breeze
of love. After few months , you will realize the breeze has become
twisters or hurricanes at which time you will face worst pains even
to tell your parents that you are suffering.
Dont live falsely for outward image - live truely
for your own pleasure :
"prestige" issue is the best of our indian culture.
I have seen n number of families where their daughter will be suffering
with her husband due to dowry or any dam problems but her parents
will show their teeth and say all their relatives that their daughter
is happy. Even in cities , there are such cruel heartless parents
who just want to show off that their daughter is happy even if the
truth is other wise.
Commitments and Decisions :
When you are in love, try to continue the relationship only if
you think the guy or girl involved is really going to take care
of you all life. Dont remain silent or ignore your soul mates mistakes
. Some times you will love the guy or girl so much that you are
forced to adjust no matter how they behave in few issues. Dont leave
it and remain calm. Thats why they say love is blind. Even if you
find a small uneasy conversation or behaviour , do not get angry
but remain soft and discuss clearly and get assurance that it wont
happen again. Most girls choose to remain calm but silence wont
Its better to talk openly about weakness than spending hours on
phone discussing odd stuff. Romance is part of life but it wont
give you peace in the long run. The more you get a deep fear if
the guy involved is not as you wish, better talk to him about your
expectations, give him some time to change and surrender to sai.
Don't follow men and listen to their affectionate blackmails that
you had once commited. Remember ,
your final commitment happens on your wedding day.
Untill that moment , you are free and you have time to take any
decisions irrespective of what you spoke or did before. I must also
say please dont do a sin because of your own selfish reason. I know
a girl who switched from one guy to another for little mistake he
did. Try to take soft deicisions and best way to seek sais help
while taking decisions is to read sai satcharita atleast once or
few chapters and pray him whole heartedly to guide you. Ask sai
to create incidents in next few days which will help you understand
if the person involved is really good or not.
Be careful . Some decisions can be named as sin
I know a girl who has agreed for marriage , marriage hall was arranged
, finally she met the guy for first time, she was not convinced
with his looks . so she quit the marriage. The guy was already in
love with her like crazy. Now i wont say its a sin because its better
the girl told she dont want to live with the guy she doesnt like
. At the same time, it adds up to her bad karma. someday, she might
have to face similar situation. When you are in love with a guy
or a girl, if you have given commitments try to act carefully. Make
sure all gains equally . If you feel your breakup is going to bring
good life to the person involved, its not a sin but in any case,its
better to surrender to sai and ask his advice. Baba will only give
you someone who will match your attitudes of every aspect in life.Its
your responsibility to wait untill baba gives and dont test sais
powers by asking him why he let you suffer.
Shirdi saibaba will surely bless you with good soul
Sai is a saint who supported in shiva-sakthi concept and he always
blessed his true devotees with good life partner. Sai is like Lord
venkateshwara who showers his devotees with materialistic benefits
and there by increase their faith and bring them to spiritual path.
sai knows atleast if he fulfills their desires, people will lead
a good spiritual life. So even for spiritually inclined people,
sai has a plan of good married life.
Why are you suffering for a long time :
In some peoples life, it takes long time for sai to really bring
peace. " washing away the karma " is one of the main aspects
of shirdi sais ways which is why few sai devotees suffer for years
togather though they love sai as a part of their family. Lets say
baba has a prasad ( gift ) for you. Your hands are dirty . What
will happen if he gives you the prasad. You will eat the prasad
along with dirt which might be harmful for your health.
Here the "Dirt" is the bad karma of your previous birth,
this birth or that of your ancestors. You have to go through sufferings
even in relationships and only then can sai bless you with the real
Thats why i always ask people who are about to take love or marriage
decisions to take time , have patience and decide. May
be baba has someone else in store for you...May be baba has
shown you that someone else whom you ignored based on their status
or looks or what ever but sai knows who is true and who really loves
Misunderstanding, ego, status, family problems and
I know how misunderstanding and problems in love or married life
will hurt your heart. I have gone through it myself .so i feel this
article is the little i can do to console and heal the pains in
your heart. Words have power to heal and i hope these words brings
light in your eyes and makes your heart feel "light".
My mistakes and ever forgiving sai :
Honestly, as of now, am not pure and really wonder if i deserve
to call myself as servant of sai. I listen to music, make fun with
good friends and the best part ...yes. i do get attracted to girls
( not all of them .If i find a girl who seems to be very good at
heart and loves sai as much as i do, i am not able to ignore her
). so am just a normal guy who loves sai , loves to work for him
,sai himself has assigned few works for me ...even then i am not
perfect. Today morning i got a dream of Lord Ganesha and Lord Murugan.
I have a habit of hugging sai satcharita book while i sleep. As
soon a i woke up i opened sai satcharita and read the following
Lord or Bhagwan is said to have six qualities, viz. (1) Fame, (2)
Wealth, (3) Non-attachment, (4) Knowledge, (5) Grandeur, and (6)
Generosity. Baba had all these in Him. He incarnated in flesh for
the sake of the Bhaktas. Wonderful was His grace and kindness! He
drew the devotees to Him, or how else one could have known Him!
Though Baba seemed outwardly to enjoy sense-objects, he had not
the least flavour in them, nor even the consciousness of enjoying
them. Though He ate, he had no taste and though He saw, He never
felt any interest in what He saw. Regarding passion, He was as perfect
a celibate as Hanuman. He was not attached to anything. He was pure
consciousness, the resting place of desire, anger, and other feelings.
In short, He was disinterested, free and perfect.
The words to remember here is "though He saw, He never felt
any interest in what He saw "
Baba never discouraged his devotees from enjoying beauty. He only
wants us not to give space to any
evil thoughts. sometimes falling in love with someone without
thinking deeply if our life will be good with that person is also
a evil thought because i have seen men and women get attracted,
love each other so much, there wont be a day they dont speak on
phone, they get married and finally they realize they cant live
togather any longer. I know girls who pray sai with worst pains
in their heart. some girls get pressure both from parents and lover/
husband or his family. In the mean while , they keep on praying
sai, doing pooja, lighting lamps and reading sai satcharita. The
only mistake they would have done is deciding too fastly in choosing
the right guy.
How mind works when you are in love :
When you are in love, you are happily thinking, day dreaming, roaming
around, commicating, missing and doing other stuff for your studies
or career but sai loves you so much that he wants you to realize
if the person you love is really going to keep happily or not.
Sai once says to a devotee" I look at him every minute even
when he doesnt remember me.... I have been watching him for 700
years " ....such is sais love. Even when we as child think
that we are happy at present sai as our affectionate mother takes
responsibilty to show us whats good for us and whats not. So sai
himself creates few incidents to help you understand if the person
you love is really honest and if he will keep you happily all life.
But when you are in love, its hard to even look back and think
hard no matter how much sai helps you. Thats why i have launched
starsai.net , especially to help young shirdi saibabas devotees
to be alert , be whole heartedly devoted to sai and seek his guidance.
My prayers to shirdi saibaba to bring you peace
and harmony in your love and married life :
After you read this article take few points which you think will
suit your life. I have wrote this generally to help you but personally
each one of you will have different problem.I sincerely pray our
guru shirdi saibaba to bless you with peace and happiness in your
I like to know real life incidents , experiences and leela of how
shirdi saibaba helped his devotees in their love life and married
life.Please write to me if you like to share. Sometimes i get mails
from sai devotees who become my sai friends. These people are mostly
the one who are suffering in life.
Saibaba's advice for couples facing Caste problem
, Parents acceptance :
Sai Baba has always worked to unite people in different religion
and caste.During his days in shirdi, Baba has blessed few girls
and men to get married with the right person. Irrespective of what
your parents say, please remember baba loves when your parents are
respected. So respect your parents at the same time gradually help
them understand their acceptance is important for you. Never scold
or hurt elders.If you don't like
others, just keep away and remain silent.
I am really surprised with the number of mails i get from youngsters
that their parents are not accepting for marriage with the girl
or guy they love. The main reason being different caste / religion.
Their parents are also baba devotees for long. If their children
says that Baba says one must not see difference of religion or caste,
the parents are telling, baba also says that you must not disobey
parents.Sometimes your parents advice could be right too.
here for detailed article for shirdi saibaba devotees facing pains
in marriage issues related to caste/religion
Dear sai friends, Please don't be angry with anyone for the pains
you are facing. Don't specifically ask baba"Help me get married
with this guy or this girl "..The way to pray baba is this
"Baba , you know my heart, you know
who will keep me peacefully all life, if its the girl or guy i love
atpresent then please bless me with him/her or please show me a
way in life"
Baba alone knows who's made for you and who will
keep you happily :
I know how much heart pains when people in love are sepearated
because of reasons one can't imagine. Baba will show you a way but
you must accept what ever way he shows you irrespective of it giving
you pains or pleasure. Never think only the girl or guy you love
now alone can keep you happily. Only baba knows who is made for
whom.If your fate is to marry someone you love and suffer after
marriage , how can baba bless you with that person. How can a girl
live in a family where the guys mother is not comfortable with her
son marrying her. So when you pray to Sai baba , please remember,
he knows your past, present and also FUTURE.
Instead of sticking to our desires, please chant sai sai sai...always
remember sai and show your devotion to him, and ask him to guide
you properly in life.My only request to both girls and guys is that
Never say "Yes" to any alliance just because the person
is earning a lot and well settled in life. I have heared about numerous
girls accepting a guy just because he is well settled and in the
end suffer to core. Baba will show you everything.Some will give
importance to money and some for affection. Choose the one who gives
importance for affection. This will be blessing in itself.
Divorce issues and pains after marriage :
In the past two years, i have learnt from life of few sai devotees
that they trust a guy and marry and later after few months or years
they find the guy looses interest in them and hurts them leading
to divorce.The painful fact is that their child will be kept with
the guys family. Being a sensitive person ,i was thinking how can
a sai devotee suffer to this extent.May be i must do something to
avoid a girl to come to this extent.Thats why baba gave me a spark
to make this site....
Why did i make this site especially for youths
seeking guidance to shirdi saibaba in relationship issues ?
Its just to avoid the pains after marriage. Atleast for a country
like india marriage is closely associated with family values and
self respect of elders in family. How can baba help you if you run
behind your desires alone.
When Shirdi Saibaba is not "Giving"
you the person you love ,you can take it in two ways.
1.May be for the time being you are supposed to pay back your past
bad karma ..so you are suffering and later something good will happen
2.May be Sai Baba knows that the girl or guy you love might change
after marriage. This is not true in all cases but people who divorce
know the pains they are facing
I kindly request few orthodox sai devotees to take this website
as an effort to prevent worst pains that youngsters might face getting
married with wrong person. I also faced pains in relationship issues
and thats one of the reason i started coming around dhuni for hours
togather for several years in baba temple.Trust me the sacred fire
"Dhuni" of baba is so powerful. I am a ordinary person
and though i face pains in my personal and professional life, i
feel good atleast for helping other sai devotees in pain.
All i know is my sai is guiding me do this as he care deeply for
the one who reads this article....
50 days remembering sai sai sai
- Dwarakamai of Baba is in your heart :
You can't come to this site if sai doens't love you. Saibaba wants
you to take proper decision. Seek for guidance keeping away your
desires and surrender to him whole heartedly. Trust me..Atleast
for 50 days from today remember Sai sai sai...where ever you go,
what ever you do...Internally in your heart remember theres a Dwarakamai
, theres a beautiful Dhuni glowing and saibaba is living there......He
is with in you....He is going to bless you with lots of peace and
All it takes is "remembering" sai sai sai....
If you think you must share your pains or problem with me , please
feel free to mail me at email@example.com
. I will reply when i have time. Remember, i am as ordinary as you.
so all you can expect is a friendly reply as a brother. I have listed
few ways i used to help children of sai in pain....Please follow
them and feel free to write to me
7 : 09 : 2007
( my attitudes and way i understood sai could change after this
date due to more experiences . Please forgive me if i had done any
mistakes in this article. As i said earliar, am after all a ordinary
little servant of shirdi saibaba. Article edited on 18:10:2007 )
If you are worried and feel like having a inspiration to love the
saibaba who lives in yourself...Please have a look at new page i
made with Shirdi